Why Spending Time Alone Is Good

The noise of life is deafening. Especially as a mom, I have so much competing for my time, and random things running through my mind at the same time, I can hardly hear myself think.  It’s like, I am always ON. 

This past year has been a very interesting year for me: I let go of things that did not align with my life’s purpose; learning to let go of guilt that was weighing me down; and trusting that my desire to live a simple, yet impactful life was not being selfish.  Those things were a continuing thread, and very difficult to address. I have had to silence the voices of distraction and people around me to make the best decisions for myself and my family.  And more times than not, it meant spending time alone. You know what I mean, have you had to get away to find yourself?

Well, I am at that place again.  I am faced with a decision that will change the trajectory of my life. And I am certain, that I need a little alone time so that I can be clear headed and stay true to myself.  It is not as easy as it was six months ago.  It seems as if the challenges we face and decisions we make don’t get easier with experience, which is absolutely bananas to me. Does that happen to you?  Bananas, right?!?!?!

Nonetheless, I must tuck myself away if not just for a half day.  So, should you.  You may be thinking, “I don’t have time for a half day, my day is full enough as it is.  I get it, we are busy moms…ok, take an hour around lunch time, and just be present with yourself.  You may not be at a crossroad, or dealing with a touch decision to make as I am.  You may just need a minute to silence life long enough to give your mind and body time to just be.

There’s a quote I love by Maria Isabel Barreno that says, “it is alone, truly alone that one bursts apart, springs forth.”  The quote explains the beauty of true alone time, a time to spring forth. 

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There are beautiful benefits to alone time aside from personal enjoyment, and I wanted to share my experiences with you…as a form of accountability to myself for my upcoming journey.

  • It gives you a healthy perspective. I am one to seek counsel, I don’t pretend to know-it-all. And while I have some amazing people in my life, spending time alone allows me to reflect on what’s important to me and view things from my own perspective.  It’s refreshing to appreciate your own perspective.


  • You will be more focused.  A few months ago, I decided that I would get more serious about my blog and my role as an influencer. I was coming off my tour and headed to a conference.  I felt like I was drowning. While at the conference, I carved out time to for me be alone. It wasn’t much time, a few hours a day…but when I returned home, I was so focused. I needed to reflect on what just happened with the Motivated Mom Tour, and how I needed to adjust to go forward and farther.


  • Be more creative. Every now and then I clear my calendar, I ignore everybody’s call and take a personal half day.  After taking my son to school, I return home and completely relax. I veg out on the sofa and catch up on my “guilty pleasure” television shows, or go back to sleep for a bit.  When I begin working after lunch, I am much more creative…especially with writing.  Some of my most effective grants were written after half day alone time. Don’t tell anyone.  LOL!


  • Work more efficiently.  You will find it easier to get things done when you have less distractions.  Spending time alone allows to concentrate your efforts and be more productive and efficient. That feeling of accomplishment motivates you to more alone rime, more often.

 Are you ready for some alone time? Whether it’s a week, a half day, or an hour – explore the benefits and see what it can truly do for you.  How would some alone time help you right now? Please share, I would love to hear from you.


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  1. Now that I’m a mom I need my alone time more than ever. I get caught up in all the details of my kid’s things and then I get behind in things I need to do for me. Being alone helps me think through things.

    1. Yes Tonia, I understand. As a mom we have to carve out time and be very intentional about our alone time. It helps me find balance within myself. I am always moving fast, cleaning the house, helping with homework, doing laundry, running my home based business…it’s critical to just stop and relax my mind. You’re right, it helps you to be able to think things through.

  2. I thrive on alone time. I don’t have to be doing anything, sometimes just sitting in silence, but it does help to calm me and leave me feeling more relaxed.

  3. I really love to alone, it makes things in peace and place. But you know, when you already have a family, this would be very hard to achieve.

    1. Yes, it is harder with a family. But it’s an important part of self-care…it’s still very hard. I hope that you are working to find time, even 10 minutes a day.

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